9 Ways to Be Happy Today 31


How do you feel when you wake up in the morning?  

Do you dread getting out of bed?  

Do you feel like you are living out the movie “Groundhog’s Day”?  

Are you hitting the alarm clock too many times?

Are you looking forward to your day?

Are you happy?

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Happiness isn’t just something that lucky, rich, successful people feel.  I know a few successful people that are very unhappy. Happiness is not really related to your pocketbook or even your circumstances. Happiness is a skill.  It takes practice in the way you think and how you view the world.  Everyone has the opportunity to practice happiness.

Here are 9 ways to practice happiness today:

1.  Be grateful. We all know there are benefits to gratitude, but how much practice are we putting into being grateful?  Of course, there are many “things” we can be grateful for, but gratitude is more than having all the things we want.  Gratitude is a way of viewing life, regardless of what we have or do not have.

Take a minute and think about what you are grateful for: think about this several times during the day.  Practice looking at life with gratitude glasses, and seeing what you find.  You will certainly find that you enjoy the moments of your day more. You will find that the little things are more meaningful. You will find your mind finds the good, and enjoys it a little bit more. If you get a chance today, sit with your gratitude. Savor what you have.  You will feel an increase in your happiness.

2. Be yourself.  Stop trying to be like someone else.  Focus on the things that make you unique and special and love those things about yourself.  We are each unique and different for a reason.  We were made that way.  Each of us come with beautiful traits and characteristics.

Our differences are what make the garden of humanity so beautiful.

When you start out your day, focus on the strengths that are yours, and stop comparing yourself to your neighbor.

 3.  Stop the negative self-talk.  You know what negative self-talk is: it’s that record in your head that tells you all the things you aren’t doing well.  You aren’t spending enough time with your kids.  You aren’t serving others enough. You aren’t friendly enough. You aren’t happy enough. Basically, it’s the voice that tells you: You aren’t enough!

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The interesting thing about that voice, is that you are the one holding the on/off button.  Sure, it takes practice and awareness, but you are the one who lets it continue. Shut it off. Turn it down. Stop the negative and focus on the positive.  

4.  Laugh.  We always say that laughter is the best medicine.  Well, research actually shows that laughter has huge impact on how we feel.  It is a powerful antidote to how we feel and how we manage stress. It helps our bodies heal and renew.  So, sit down and watch that corny show.  Smile.  Laugh out loud.  You will feel the benefits.

5.  Hug.  There is healing and uplifting power in physical touch. It has the capacity to calm our anxiety, help us heal more quickly and even release emotional pain.  Physical touch has even been shown to lessen the effects of fatigue and irritability.  So, if you’re tired and worn out, you likely need a hug!  Reach out and share the love.

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6.  Don’t sweat the small stuff.  I cannot count the number of times that I have allowed one negative event to color my entire day in negativity. One small rock in the road does not a mountain make. Let the small stuff be what it really is — small. I know this is easier said than done. Really, I know.  But choosing to let the little things rule your day will make all your days less than happy. When something bad happens, ask yourself, “Will this matter tomorrow…or next week…or next year?”  Putting the small things in perspective allow you to live a fuller, happier life. 

7.  Move. Physical activity really does improve your mood.  It helps you blow off steam and leaves you feeling more relaxed and happier. You naturally feel better about yourself and exude more confidence. So, when you need a boost, move.  Get up. Do some jumping jacks. Go for a walk. The chemicals released by being active will make it worth it.

8.  See mistakes as opportunities to learn, not signs of failure. This is one that I really struggle with. I have perfectionistic leanings…so mistakes are seen as “fails”. But, the research shows that truly happy and successful people see mistakes as opportunities for growth.  I am constantly drawn to this quote by Thomas Edison:

Thomas Edison Quotes

When you make a mistake, see it as an opportunity to become better, not as a sign of personal weakness.  I am working on this one, but it makes sense.  We all make mistakes daily.  They are great opportunities to learn and become a better people.

9.  Give. Take a minute to do something for someone else. Spending a little of our effort, time and money in true giving has been shown to be beneficial to our health and happiness.  It feels good to make someone else a priority.  It leaves you feeling warm and happy!  Give it a try: you will find yourself wanting to give more often.

How many of these have you tried?  Do they make a difference in your happiness?

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Challenge for the day:

Go and do.  Try one of the above and see how it makes you feel. Then, come back and let me know!

Have a very happy day!

 

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Wife, mother of twins, speaker, and creator of Balm to My Soul.I love to write, speak, sleep, snuggle and, if I really get lucky, inspire and help others. I am clearly imperfect but determined to be a little better every day. Some days are better than others! Thanks for stopping by!
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31 thoughts on “9 Ways to Be Happy Today

  • Reply
    Ana Lynn

    I have a similar post on how to be happy, but I’d like to add one thing on top of stop trying to be like someone else – stop living up to someone else’s expectations of you. Live up to YOUR expectations. Your level of happiness instantly goes up. I speak from experience.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      That is true Ana Lynn. I do think another’s expectations can kill our own happiness. I had that happen this week, so I had to readjust. I also think carefully evaluating our own expectations are important as well, especially if you have perfectionistic expectations. That certainly kills happiness! Thanks for your words. Have a great day!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Yes, Charlee. I do think learning from our mistakes is one of the best things we can do in this life. I hope I figure that out pretty soon! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by again. I am off to read your post about the big wedding!

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    Topaz @ The Art of a Beautiful Life

    Great list, Elizabeth! So often, we do not realize that happiness is not what happens outside of ourselves, but inside. Someone might read a list like this and think to themselves, “Yeah, I know all of that, but…..” And then they will talk about something going on in their life. They do not realize that the secret to happiness is inside of us not outside. I have seen some pretty amazing people smile through some gut-wrenching hard stuff. When we do the things like you have on your list, the feeling comes even if we do not start out with it when we begin. Great post.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      It is so true, Topaz. I do think people think happiness happens to you, not that we create and can practice happiness. It is so hard to convince others that they make their own, that it is an internal choice. Thank you for your sweet words. I always love to read what you have to say! Have a beautiful day!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      That is one that I really have to work on as well! Thanks for stopping by Leslie! Have a great weekend yourself!

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    Montana

    Wow great post! I need to practice some of these more- particularly not indulging in negative self-talk and appreciating myself and not comparing myself to others! Thanks for the reminder 🙂

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    Carolann

    wow what great advise! All of it true and right one….this is great to keep handy for those days when you need a reminder of just how lucky and love we are….awesome!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Carolann. We are lucky! I just need to remember that all the time! Thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful weekend!

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    Joan

    This is a great post. I agree with everything you have said. It is valuable advice. Sometimes it takes years to apply some of them. We need to be patient and keep trying. (The comments are great!!)

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    Kimberlee

    This is a great list of ways to be happy. I think too many people focus on what is wrong with them, life, etc and not what is going right or what they currently have to be grateful for. At our church service yesterday “Love Where You Live” our minister mentioned that many people are living in a darkness these days – I agree. Also, on the part about exercise – I exercise at least 5 days a week and think it really helps keep me focused and a more cheerful, happy person in general.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you, Kimberlee. I do think that many people live in the dark, as you say. Focusing on the positive and being grateful for what we have is a skill. I have to work on it daily! Thanks for stopping by and for your sweet comment!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Me too, Michelle. I have to remember that, because sometimes I have a tendency to be a little selfish with my time. I always feel better after giving a little!

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    Kam Kay

    What a great post! Recipe to happiness is so simple. The points you have listed are easy to achieve but we tend to make life so complicated by not setting the priorities right. Thanks for reminding many of us that happiness is achievable and is mostly within reach.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you! Happiness can be simple, I think we can complicate it. Today I was just thinking, “Why does it seem like we give out badges for busyness?” Being busy doesn’t really equate success. I need a little more simplicity!! Thank you for stopping by and sharing!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I have to remind myself daily of some of these things! LOL. Have a beautiful day, Bobbi!

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    Robyn

    AMAZING ideas! This post falls right in line with the #100happydays challenge I am doing! Finding ways to be happy is always a challenge and these are great reminders!!
    Thanks Elizabeth!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you Robyn!! The 100happydays challenges sounds like a great way to get happy! I need to constantly work on this!! Thanks for stopping over. Come again. We are doing a link up through August starting on Sundays if you have posts you want to link!!

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    Brittany

    What a great post! I took a Positive Psychology course last semester and loved it; most of it was spent watching TED Talks on happiness. I don’t think people realize its importance and it’s often overshadowed by material objects and the more tangible things in our world. Thanks for the tips!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks, Brittany. I love positive psychology. It is such an exciting field and they are truly finding out how much influence we have on our own lives, literally. We can choose gratitude, happiness, and peace regardless of our circumstances. I am still a work in progress at it! Thanks for stopping by!