This is a surprising short gem that has many straight-forward and simple ideas for cleaning out the junk in your head. Sister Pearce is President Hinckley’s daughter and has written one other book, and co-authored several others. This is my favorite of hers. This is a spiritual book, not a therapeutic one, yet she captures solid ideas for challenging and changing the untruths that we buy into.
She challenges us to look at what we think, what we believe, and how that affects us. She uses the analogy of cleaning out the closet. We need to keep some stuff, organize some, and some things…well, they simply need to go in the trash. There are some beliefs that need to be tossed. She isn’t talking about sinful thoughts in particular, although those do need to be trashed, but rather those thoughts that hold us back, make us feel small, and limit our potential.
There is a lot in this book that we as Latter-day Saints have heard before (e.g. importance of prayer, scripture study, church attendance, temple attendance), but in addition, there are solid principles for challenging negative thoughts and changing them. She does this using a simple approach that is refreshing and strengthening.
Sister Pearce shares ideas for building yourself up and creating greater peace by developing and focusing on the truths within us. She shares ways we can find and “starve” those half-truths and lies that seem to creep into out thinking and create pain. She states: “If we don’t know what they are, it’s very easy for us to keep feeding them, helping them to grow more powerful and stronger by the day.” (p. 39).
She also quotes Charlie Brown at one point, which endeared me a little more to her: “Sometimes I lie awake at night, and ask, “Where have I gone wrong?” Then a voice says to me, ‘This is going to take more than one night.'” (Charles Shultz). As we work on our own thoughts and challenge the untruths there, it will certainly take more than one night, or one day.
One of my light bulb moments from this book was when Sister Pearce was addressing our own personal thoughts and beliefs. She challenged us to ask the question: “Whose mission does this belief support–Christ’s or Satan’s?”(p. 54) As we ask ourselves this question, it becomes easier to ferret out those thoughts that are silently demeaning us and our behaviors.
I think reading this book is a good start. You could probably read it in a few sittings, but applying the concepts will take more time. It is filled with questions that can help us fight the daily battle of our own beliefs. This book is another reminder of how to be kind to ourselves, and find the truths that will ultimately set us free.
If you are struggling with an internal battle of negativity with yourself, or are looking for a nice gift to give to that person in your life that struggles to see the good in herself, this would be a good choice. Happy reading!
Stayed tuned for tomorrow’s Saturday breakfast idea and Sunday’s message! Have a great Friday!