“Since all love emanates from God, we are born with the capacity and the desire to love and to be loved.”
Friday was a beautiful day. I was able to see the first grandchild from my family’s side be married to his beautiful bride. As I sat in the temple, I remember when it was my day. I remembered feeling excited and nervous, and somehow perfectly calm all at the same time. As I watched my sweet nephew and his bride, I became reminiscent. You see, they are in the “new love” phase. They are young and full of excitement about life and love, with little knowledge of what the future holds for them, except goodness. As they knelt across the altar from one another, I could feel their energy. I could see their joy. I am so happy for them, and I wish them the best of all good things.
My husband and I are in the midst of “middle love”. We still are passionate for one another, but we have a little more understanding of the ups and downs, hardships and trials that come with marriage…and trials…and children. This love is a little different than new love. It entails a camaraderie and understanding that only time can bring.
This video shows a more “enduring love”. It touched my heart so much, because as I think of the stages of love, I realize that love develops over time. It changes. It has to be kept up. It is work. It isn’t always pretty. It isn’t diamonds and flowers all the time.
“When filled with God’s love, we can do and see and understand things that we could not otherwise do or see or understand. Filled with His love, we can endure pain, quell fear, forgive freely, avoid contention, renew strength, and bless and help others in ways surprising even to us.” John Groberg, “The Power of God’s Love”
There are also different forms of love: the love of a child, the love of a sibling, the love for a parent, the love of a friend. Each of these are beautiful gifts that we have. They bring us joy. They give us hope. Human relationships allow us to experience a gamut of emotions: happiness, joy, sorrow, pain, longing, understanding and empathy.
All the phases of love are beautiful. They are all a part of the work of this life. I believe they are a gift from a loving Heavenly Father, who is allowing us to experience a piece of what He feels as He looks down at each of us. I cannot fathom what that must be like, but I do know when I watch my own children that LOVE is something that must be experienced. We can write poetry, we can paint pictures, we can speak of love, but the true meaning of love comes from experiencing it. To feel loved is an ultimate healer. It can calm a troubled heart. It can take away the tears. It can mend a wounded spirit.
I know I am perhaps being a bit simplistic, but simplicity is sometimes appropriate. And, since I am reminiscent today, I am simplifying. Although I know love is imperfect, it is still so beautiful. It is difficult for me to open up to others and share pieces of my small heart. I hold back. I pull in. Even with some close friends, I hold back pieces of myself. I know that my Heavenly Father is trying to teach me differently. I am so grateful that I have so many different types of love in my life. And, most of all, I am grateful that I know my Heavenly Father loves me. I know it. I have felt it. And, as I draw nearer to Him, it helps my own small heart expand to love others.
Share your love with those around you. Whether it be a spouse, a child, a friend, a neighbor, share it. As you share love, it expands your heart and love will grow. That is the only way to truly describe love, by sharing and feeling it together. As we do so, we are experiencing bits and pieces of God’s love in our lives.
I hope you each have a beautiful Sunday! Thank you for sharing a piece of it with me.