What Does it Mean to Be a Woman? 2

woman hand focusStarting a blog for me was an awesome task.  I have always avoided social media and see myself an introvert – reveling in my privacy.  Yet, I found myself drawn to the idea.  In fact, I found myself up at night, thinking about the idea.  My feelings about the divinity of womanhood and value of women have always been important to me, and in my search for what I could do to share my thoughts about this topic, I came up with this:  Why not blog about being a woman?  There are definitely some benefits to being female, and although it is not always easy, I understand that it comes with traits that help me in this struggle called life.  I believe every woman has an innate drive to strive for better things and the capacity to do and be good.  The traits of empathy, morality, virtue, courage, kindness, strength, determination, and beauty, to name a few, can be common to women.  Being a woman is more than our physical body, it is a part of our soul.

I am repeatedly drawn to a quote by Gordon B. Hinckley: “Woman is God’s supreme creation. Only after the earth had been formed, after the day had been separated from the night, after the waters had been divided from the land, after vegetation and animal life had been created, and after man had been placed on the earth, was woman created; and only then was the work pronounced complete and good.

“Of all the creations of the Almighty, there is none more beautiful, none more inspiring than a lovely daughter of God who walks in virtue with an understanding of why she should do so, who honors and respects her body as a thing sacred and divine, who cultivates her mind and constantly enlarges the horizon of her understanding, who nurtures her spirit with everlasting truth.” (Ensign, “Our Responsibility to Our Young Women”, Sept. 1988).

I believe that women have the power to do anything.  We can successfully work outside the home and be leaders in communities and corporations.  I have no intent or desire to criticize or disparage women who have chosen those things here.  I have also found that motherhood and the arts of homemaking are increasing berated and belittled in our world.  More and more women are feeling that being a mother and raising children isn’t enough to make you a valuable asset in this society.  Here I would like to challenge that idea.  I think there is great art in motherhood and in the arts of homemaking.  I would like this blog to be a gathering place for women to share their joys and heartaches in being women.  I would like there to be a place to publicly proclaim the value of women, and how we can and do affect change in our own homes as well as on the world.

If you are looking for a perfect woman to model, you will not find that here.  Anyone who knows me will tell you that.  Here you will find my many stumblings and missteps.  Although it is a risk to make my mistakes more publicly, I have faith that as women we can support one another and find grace in each other’s eyes.  Hopefully, as we share, we can become as a group a little kinder, a little more empathetic and understanding, and a little stronger.  There is great strength in numbers.

So as I open my mouth to speak about the divinity of womanhood, I walk with some trepidation. There is some fear of being judged, disagreed with, and disliked.   I have no doubt there are some that will disagree, that will not see womanhood as I do.  But as Mark Twain said, “Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.”

As I demonstrate a little bit of courage, I ask for support, not necessarily agreement.  Don’t we all need a place to champion each other, to champion the joys and heartaches of womanhood? So what does it mean to be a woman?  Well, let’s find out together.

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    Marci Lym Lund

    I’m so excited to see where this goes! I too find myself being extremely introverted! I don’t like to wear any of my problems or negative emotions “out on my sleeve” because it makes me feel like I’m not good enough as a person. I usually hurt or cry inside the confines of my own home and many times in the arms of one of the most amazing men. Many don’t know when I hurt, and I hide it because I don’t want them to know.

    I practically cried when I read the part about society belittling those that choose to stay at home. I’ve been a stay at home mom for over 6 years now. And recently been fighting with feelings that maybe I should leave the home and “contribute to society”. I’m not sure exactly where the next few years are going to take me and honestly it scares me to death! Many days I find myself wondering if my children really would be better off if my house had more scheduling and the juggling game of work and home life for Mom. The last few days I’ve felt like a dumb, unvalueable person. Maybe together we can help each other. 🙂

    Thanks for have the courage I never had! Sometimes I wonder if I let more people into the inner most circle of my heart if life would be different for me and I wouldn’t feel so much like it’s me against the world.

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    I have seen many phases of life. I have experienced heartache, joy, depression, love, gratitude, all of the feelings that come to women in this life. I wouldn’t change the trials and heartaches life brings, because as I look back, I see they have taught me more about what women are capable of overcoming and becoming. Through life experience I have at times questioned my value as a woman, and in all honesty I have prayed for patience to endure. But in looking back, these lessons have helped me be less judgmental and more compassionate to others who struggle. I am so grateful to be a woman, to have a companion that supports me in all things, to have children and grandchildren, and especially my faith. Is my life perfect, oh far from it, but I cherish each moment of love and joy and each lesson learned.