So, we when think of nesting, we usually think about women preparing for a new baby. Well, that isn’t happening around here. Recently, someone said to my husband and me: “When are you going to have a boy? You need someone to pass on the family name!” I was offended, then hurt. We have two beautiful daughters. I feel abundantly blessed to have them. In no way do I feel that they are “less than” because they aren’t male and may or may not “pass along” the family name. That is pretty meaningless to me. The only time I felt a flicker of concern was during my pregnancy soon after we found out we were having two girls. For some reason, we thought we were going to have two boys, or maybe a boy and a girl. When the technician told us we were having two girls, I responded: “Are you sure?” She gave me a look that said, “Are you kidding me? Do you know how often I do this?” and then politely said, “Yes. Two girls.” We rejoiced! First, I felt extremely lucky to have any children, and abundantly blessed to get two with one stone. Second, the thought occurred to me, “What if my sweet husband wants a son?” The chance of us having more children was literally unknown, and probably unlikely. So, I asked my husband if he wished we were having a son. And, his response took all doubt from my mind. When I see my husband with our two daughters, there is no doubt in my mind that he has no regrets. These two beautiful daughters are enough. They are more than enough for our waiting hearts and home.
So, the thoughtless and inappropriate comment above bothered me. It hurt. First, it was none of that person’s business whether we have more children or not: whether we can have any more children or not. Second, it felt somehow demeaning to the two beautiful spirits that we already hold in our hearts and home. We are all children of our Heavenly Father: male or female. There is no designation in my mind, or in my testimony, of the status of men vs. women in Heavenly Father’s plan. He loves each one of us, regardless of gender, color, economic status, or other category. I also know that Heavenly Father doesn’t love me or my husband any less because we only have two children.
So, when I talk about nesting, I am talking about this. Regardless of whether we are allowed to create any more children, we can always create.
We can create beauty. We can create kindness. We can create love. We can create goodness. I hope you are each using your creative power. Creating is godlike. And, these little nests make me smile because I created them.
They remind me of the beauty of a new start. They remind me of the resurrection of the Savior. They remind me that regardless of what we are granted in this life, life goes on. New life begins. And, that is beautiful!