This week was a busy one. I was feeling very stressed, and when I feel stress, my body does too. After a three-day headache, my girls got a fever! Aarrghh! Yuck! I still had to work, finish a presentation, and now this! And then my hubby had a pretty stressful week at work too. I decided to work on de-stressing, and take some “me” time. I laid down on my bed, telling my little ones mommy needed a little time alone. I turned on my tablet to watch a short show and try to relax. It was less than 10 minutes before both my little ones had climbed on my bed, snuggled up to me and were watching with mommy.
At first, I cringed. I was slightly irritated, and there had to be some rearrangement. In the midst of climbing up, there was some hair pulled accidentally and elbows nudged uncomfortably. Then, my brain clicked. My girls knew I was stressed. They knew I was tired. They just wanted “Mommy time” too. Instead of fighting, I took a deep breath, pulled the blanket over the three of us, and we finished watching a show together. What started as “me” time turned into bonding time.
I love this clip from President Monson. It helps remind us gently of what matters most:
It is so easy for me to get caught up in “my” list of priorities. I always have something that I think needs to be done, and when that task is completed another steps in. Yet, it is so nice to be reminded of this. Faith, family, relationships. These are truly the essentials. The rest is just extra.
In a talk by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, he shares four things that matter most, and notice, they are all relational:
1. Relationship with God: Our relationship with Him is key in facing the daily busy-ness of the world. As we seek, pray, repent, and study, we will know Him. John Groberg stated: ““When we understand who God is, who we are, how He loves us, and what His plan is for us, fear evaporates. When we get the tiniest glimpse of these truths, our concern over worldly things vanishes” (taken from The Power of God’s Love).
2. Family relationships: These are truly the most important mortal relationships we have, because they can turn into eternal relationships. I love President Uchtdorf’s definition of love: “In family relationships love is really spelled t-i-m-e, time.” When we spend quality time together, we nurture relationships, develop trust, and create bonds in the family unit.
3. Relationships with fellowman: The way we treat and interact with others around us is deeply telling as to the kind of people we are inside. Service and kindness to others is meaningful in developing purpose and serving our Heavenly Father. Since we are all children of our Heavenly Father, it is positive to help each other along this path of life.
4. Relationship with self: We must also develop a healthy, positive relationship with ourselves. It is difficult to love and give to others if you struggle to look at yourself in the mirror. President Uchtdorf states, “Some people can’t get along with themselves.” Isn’t that the truth!
I hope we all can take some time to “be with” what matters most. The relationships in our lives are critical. I know I often take them for granted in my list of things to do. I know I struggle with finding the balance. Luckily, I had two little ones remind me this week what truly is important.
To conclude, President Uchtdorf stated: “Strength comes not from frantic activity but from being settled on a firm foundation of truth and light. It comes from placing our attention and efforts on the basics of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. It comes from paying attention to the divine things that matter most. Let us simplify our lives a little. Let us make the changes necessary to refocus our lives on the sublime beauty of the simple, humble path of Christian discipleship—the path that leads always toward a life of meaning, gladness, and peace.”
Quotes taken from President Dieter F. Uchtdorf’s talk, “Of Things That Matter Most”, October 2010 General Conference.
To see another reminder of what matters most, see my post: Mary, Martha and the Lesson of the Leaves.