I did this series of posts earlier this year on bullying, but as school is starting, I thought this deserved a shout out.
As we prepare our children for school, we focus a lot of energy on buying new clothes, getting school supplies, making sure they have backpacks, and getting their schedules coordinated. But, do we also prepare our children emotionally?
I was at a children’s museum this last weekend with my little ones and took a moment to sit down (sigh…). My oldest sat down at a nearby station to color some dinosaurs. Another little boy (parent unseen) came up, pushed her out of the way and yelled at her, for apparently no reason. I watched my little A step aside and her tears were automatically there. She was shocked and surprised.
Mama Bear came out, and luckily my little one ran to me first, so I had a minute to think more clearly.
Little Boy’s parents were still nowhere in sight. He wandered off.
I gave sweet A a hug, asked her what happened and reassured her she was o.k.
She went back, sat down and started coloring. Proud Mama came out as I watched sweet A take several deep breaths to calm down and stop the tears. Then she diligently colored that dinosaur.
You see, my little ones have probably been overprotected, but I realize that they are going to face some seemingly senseless unkind acts. I can’t be there all the time. I cannot prevent someone from hurting them. But, I can prepare them.
We put a lot of focus on being smart: getting good grades, being the top of the class, getting into the “best” school, scholarships, etc. But, what would be your child’s grade in Emotional Intelligence? As a matter of fact, what would yours be? Have we taught that to our children?
Bullying is a very common issue. Before your children return to school, take a minute and talk to them. Sometimes your child may be the bully. Make sure you talk to them about what boundaries are, what bullying is, and model kind behavior for them.
Take a minute and go through these posts. Bullying occurs at all ages: preschool, grade school, intermediate and high school. Bullying even continues for some into adulthood. Be sure that you don’t overlook preparing your children for difficult social and emotional situations.
Here are the posts:
Let’s start talking about bullying. Let’s start talking about emotions. Talk about these things with your kids. Let me know what they think and what you learned. Is there bullying going on at your school?
Leave a comment and let me know!
If you want a few more ideas for emotional expression, here are a couple posts: