Mother’s Day tends to bring out many, many different emotions. There were many Mother’s Days when I felt pain and anguish, and there are Mother’s Days where I feel happiness. There have been moments of guilt and sorrow, and moments of joy. And this Mother’s Day comes with a little of all of those emotions.
But today, I wish we all would pause for a moment and see one word together: honor. Let us honor Mother’s Day.
And, what I mean is this: regardless of who you are or where you live, male or female, married or single, or have 14 children or none — all of those things matter — but today for just a small moment, let us honor those good women in our lives.
Let us honor today.
Because the pure intent of Mother’s Day is to honor good women, regardless of biological connection or child-bearing capacity. Mother’s Day, is a day we honor those women that know us and change us. Those that show the purest balm of healing that can be expressed: love. We all know that those women are more than the typical definition of the word “mother”. Those women are among us in hoards. They hold up a light even when they are doggedly tired, or empty. Maybe it isn’t your own mother, but there is someone there that comes to your mind. There is a woman that you know and love that has changed you for good. Find that woman in your mind and heart today and honor her.
Perhaps that woman is the one that bore you and raised you and sang you to sleep at night.
Or the grandmother who you knew always would have cookies in the cookie jar.
Perhaps that woman is one that lived next door and loved you like her own.
Maybe it was the teacher who never forgot your name.
Or the sister who held you when you felt alone.
Maybe it is the friend that showed up when noone else did.
Or the stranger who showed you a small act of kindness.
Maybe that woman is you.
This Mother’s Day we all need a little of that healing that connects and binds. Today we need love. And when we truly honor someone, we feel love. We feel a respect and reverence for those that have raised us and pushed us and made us better, even when we didn’t want to be better. And they did it at some sacrifice, because they love.
And I am not ignoring the men. No, the men in my life have changed and affected me as much as the women, and I honor them as well.
But today is for the women. In Mark Twain’s words:
So I honor the women who have loved and changed me today, and first on that list is my own mother. She is strong and beautiful, and kind and good. She has taught me many, many life lessons that I cannot forget. And she still teaches me. She has shown me what it means to be a mother, in every sense of the word. Even in the darkest times, I find her light. Thank you, mom. I love you.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the women that I know and love: married or single, with children or without. You are a light to me. I thank you for your example, and your kindness, for your strength and your ability to teach without speaking any words. Thank you, and, Happy Mother’s Day.