Are you a tired mom? When I started to write this, I thought I’d do a little research about helps for tired moms. When I finished my research, instead of being inspired, I was tired…more tired! These are the suggestions out there for tired moms:
3. Take a break
4. Have a girls’ night
5. Get a massage
They are probably right. If moms did those things, maybe we wouldn’t be so tired.
But, did they forget what a mom does? Were those articles actually written by tired moms? Motherhood isn’t the kind of job that gets 15 minute breaks every two hours, and a 30 minute lunch. Moms don’t always get breaks, or time for a girls’ night, or have extra money for beauty treatments. I promise you, if I saw a sign at the corner that said: “$50 gift certificates for moms. Stop here.” I might stop…if my kids weren’t hungry for lunch, or the ice cream wasn’t melting in the back of the car from the grocery trip, or I wasn’t worried about being robbed.
Although the above may be the “right” answers, sometimes being a mom means you don’t always have the time in between diaper changes, dirty laundry, making meals, your teenager’s extra-curricular activities, and cleaning the toilets to take a 60 minute spinning class, and have a leisurely massage afterwards.
And, I didn’t even mention a fraction of the things that moms do every day.
As I thought about what I do to stay sane, I came up with a few things tired moms can do today, right now, for free and in just a few minutes. These things won’t make all your fatigue go away or inspire you to write a novel or create something fantastic, but maybe these tips will help you get through another day and be a little happier! I know they have helped me.
Is this a magical list for tired moms? No.
Is it feasible? Yes.
To all the tired mamas out there, don’t give up! Motherhood is a divine calling. You are raising our most precious commodity.
10 Tips for Tired Moms
1. Sit down. Sit for longer than five minutes, without interruption. Don’t get up for the phone, for your toddler’s drink, or for the doorbell. Just sit. Just be. 99% of things can wait five minutes.
2. Turn off the electronics. No TV, no computer, no email or social media. Please don’t look at Facebook or check your email. Put it away for a few minutes. Quiet your mind and your media. You need a few minutes without everyone else telling you about their vacation, their date night, or the six course dinner they made from Pinterest. You even need a break from all those cat videos. Shut it down.
3. Silence: Find a moment of quiet. Maybe you will have to escape to the front porch, or lock the bathroom door, but find some silence. You will be amazed at how calming that can be for your well-being. We all need a little quiet.
4. Send up a little prayer. Kneel down. Ask for a little extra help. Share your frustrations and your heart. There is One who is listening and understands.
5. Take some deep breaths. Count in and out. Close your eyes. Fill up your abdominal cavity and let out all the stress as you exhale. Do this until you feel the stress diminishing.
6. Look at some pictures of your little ones. Remember the good times. Remember how you laughed together; when you went on vacation. Remember when they spilled the flour all over the kitchen and you snapped the picture just as they fell right in the middle of it. It will make you smile and remember that there are perks to being a mom.
7. Remind yourself that you can do it. Moms are stronger than they think. You did it yesterday. You’ve cleaned up the poop, throw-up, rotten food, and spilled milk: you can do this. Just take one day, one hour, one minute at a time. You can do it.
8. Cuddle: Find a minute to cuddle those little ones in your home. Don’t worry about the bathroom or the laundry or dinner or the unanswered emails or the bills or the meetings. Just sit down together and cuddle. If you have teenagers that don’t want to cuddle, cuddle with your pillow or your hubby.
9. You are not alone. It may feel like it at 2 am. It may feel like it when you haven’t seen your gal pals in an eternity, but they are there. They have been there too. They may even be there right now.
10. Share. Call a friend, your mom, or your husband. Share your heart and let it out. Shed a few tears, if you will. Letting it out, sharing your frustrations, and even crying have been shown to offer relief to someone who is struggling, We all like to know we aren’t alone. We all need to be heard. Sometimes just making that phone call can relieve enough of the stress and fatigue to just keep you going a little longer.
These are some things that have work for me. I hope they can help you!
What do you do when you are a tired mama? Please share!