5 Important Lessons Adults Can Learn from Pee-Wee Soccer 35

I got roped into coaching my girls’ soccer team this year.  I didn’t play soccer.  I don’t watch soccer. I didn’t even really know the rules to soccer. But, I volunteered, which basically means you give your time for the better good (isn’t that a nice way to describe volunteering?).

We had our first game a few weeks ago and our second game more recently. As I coached the girls on our team, I realized there are a few things adults can learn from pee-wee soccer.

1.  You need to know what direction you are going.

The girls aren’t really big on the rules of soccer yet, so the main thing is knowing what direction to kick the ball.  At the beginning of each quarter, we point in the direction we are heading.  We know where the goal is and what direction to kick the ball!!  Just like in life, if you don’t know what direction you are heading, it really doesn’t matter what path you choose.



2.  High-fives mean a lot.

We are out on the field.  Running, kicking the ball.  Maybe we even score a goal!! High-five! Hooray!!

The other team scores a goal! High-five! Good hustle.

Smiles. Joy.  

We should find success in our accomplishments! High-five! Good job.  Smile.  

Give yourself a break; you have done something well.  Glory in your work and in the work of others! 

High-five.  Good job!

So, in pee-wee soccer, nobody keeps score (well, there is that parent…). But really, the point is to have a good time playing! When you score, you cheer. When the other team scores, we cheer!  As we did this, both teams came away from a goal with smiles! It was exciting. It was contagious! Besides that parent that was keeping score, we were all having fun, and to be honest, I don’t know who scored more goals because it didn’t matter.  We were all cheering for one another.

love this sweet print from prettylittlethieves (Source)

Let’s stop the poison envy and work on sharing in another’s success!

3. Sometimes you aren’t the fastest or the biggest, but you are still an integral part of the team.

One little girl on the team isn’t big. She isn’t particularly fast. She often doesn’t even get a chance to kick the ball.  At the end of the game, she was so upset, she ran out and yelled at the other girls: “You aren’t my friends anymore!” She was frustrated. It is tough being the small one: the one who didn’t seem to be contributing much. But, she is part of the team, and we all have different talents and abilities.

In pee-wee soccer and life, we aren’t always the fastest or the biggest or the most talented.  Sometimes we are in the game and we don’t even get a chance to kick the ball.  It is frustrating and can be discouraging.  But, that is part of the game.  You keep showing up.  You keep running and working your hardest. Someone may be great at kicking the ball and another may be great at developing team spirit (boy did this little one have spirit!). We may think life is an individual contest, but truly, we are all part of a team.  We can all help one another.  We can all be connected to something larger and bigger than ourselves. Use the talents that you have to make a difference!

Together we Can Do Great Things 

4.  When you fall down, get back up and keep running.

There was a lot of falling down.  There were stumbles and trips on the field.  But, those girls got back up, pointed in the direction of the goal and started running.

What a life lesson! You get back up after you fall.  You reset where you are headed, and run like crazy!! You may skin your knee, and want to give up, but you always get back up.

What Defines Us

5. There are more important things than winning.

Really, there are.  

I know, I just lost a few die-hard soccer fans.  It really isn’t about winning.  I promise that isn’t really the point — in pee-wee soccer or in life. It’s about learning skills, bettering ourselves, and maybe learning a few things about our weaknesses.  I need to practice passing.  I need to practice giving.  My corner kick needs some work.  My temper could use an adjustment.


Strength Does Not Come From Winning

I know that I have learned more from my heartaches than from my successes.  It is not whether I win.  I win either way because either I win or I learn.

 Ah, I am sure I am in for more lessons from coaching soccer.  We are headed into game three and four this week!!

What has participating in sports taught you about life?

Let me know below!!


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35 thoughts on “5 Important Lessons Adults Can Learn from Pee-Wee Soccer

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Brittany!! I do love finding the lessons in every day. I think we are similar in that way 🙂 Thanks for the support and the share!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks, Barb. I think it is important to see what talents are ours and then focus on those. It is so easy to focus on those things we aren’t good at, but we all have great things to add in different ways!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I wish more people understood team as well. It seems like we live in a world of “selfies” and it is becoming increasingly difficult to shine together. I think that is a lesson I wish all of us could learn. Thanks, Ana.

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    My oldest taught me two important lessons during his very successful soccer career.
    After winning the State Cup and thinking we were pretty amazing, we went to regionals to find we were no competition for several of the teams. I was discouraged. My son said, “Mom, there is always going to be someone better than you.”

    Another time, I was standing by a very vocal and angry parent. The frustration became contagious and I started yelling too. My son said, “Mom, you really shouldn’t shout from the sidelines. You have no idea what you are talking about.”

    Another lesson learned was from a group of college scouts I was sitting by at a high school play off game. Several of them had coached my son in other leagues. My son’s performance seemed particularly flat at a time I really wanted him to shine. I asked the guys why they thought he didn’t play as well in high school ball. They said he was doing exactly what he should be doing, the coach just wasn’t playing him in a position that utilized his talents well.

    Oh my, I thought of another important one. All of my kids were incredible athletes which was exciting to me since I had never been able to even catch a ball. During my second son’s senior year he was the leading scorer. I loved watching him play, but he just decided to quit. He said it seemed so pointless to spend hours every day working on something so meaningless. I thought he was just lazy, but it turned out he just really didn’t see any point to it.

    One more. I had absolutely no interest in sports, but that is where my children’s talents and interests were, so I became interested in sports for awhile.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      So many good lessons. I love the one about the coach not playing him in a position that utilized his talents. Reminds me that we are all different and all shine in different ways! Hope you are doing well!!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      You just gave me a smile, Kathy!! I love it. It goes with my post and with your blog name!! Thanks for stopping over and sharing with me!

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    Love all your lessons… Especially #3! We’re big Duke fans, & in his books he talks about how important it is to find the “heart” of the team each year… Of course there’s the fastest, best 3, etc… But the heart is the person on the team who brings out the best in everyone else. Just because you’re not the best on paper, doesn’t mean you’re not important! Good luck with the rest of your season!
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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I love that idea, Caroline. Finding the heart. Isn’t that even broader than football or soccer; it seems to be a lesson for life. Thank you. Love it!

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    This is why youth sports are good for kids (as well as their adults), these are great life lessons! If parents learn and model these their children will be so much better off. We can only hope “that one parent” learns these lessons someday :).
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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Yes. I think there will always be “that parent”. I might even be that parent someday. I will have to watch for her!! Thanks for stopping by Audrey. Have a great day!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Joanne. I don’t think we always know what direction we are going – I am needing to reevaluate myself! 🙂

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I agree, Michelle. We can learn a lot from our little ones. I need to learn a little more how to play and how to relax. They do make the little things a little more enjoyable!

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    Megan Kubasch

    I love that you brought out that everyone is important, even if you’re not the biggest, or the fastest, or anything else. Everyone has an important part to play. This is sort of where I am at with my blogging. I really just need to keep putting my best foot forward and doing what I can to make it in this industry. #ibabloggers
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    Joan Lloyd

    I’ve been through it all, as you know, and this is the best advice any parent could have. I wish I could have learned it earlier. Great Job, Elizabeth.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Katie. I think those were my favorite lessons as well. We should stop all the competition with one another and really seek out one another’s strengths. Thanks for your great comment.

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    What a generous thing you’re doing coaching your daughters’ team. I always make sure my children thank their coaches after every practice and game since the coaches are volunteering their time and effort. Congrats, you’re featured this week on the Inspire Us Thursday Link Party at Organized 31.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you Holly for your comment and the share. That is my hope, to bring some encouragement to someone. I guess if that someone is just me, that works too! Have a beautiful day!