4 Generous Gifts for the Holidays that Won’t Cost You a Dime 44

If you are coming over from SITS: Welcome!! I am so excited to be starting December, and what a great way to start!!

Today I want to share with you a lesson from the Grinch. He can teach all of us a few things about Christmas. He can teach us a lesson of the heart.

I love Christmas. I love the smells, the sights, the sounds, the feel of Christmas. You see, Christmas is more than one day in the year, it is a feeling in your heart. 

Sadly though, Christmas has become more about the size of your wallet than the size of your heart. I think we all can learn a lesson from the Grinch during the holidays.

The Grinch's Christmas


Here are four generous gifts for the holidays that won’t cost you a dime. Perhaps, when you use these gifts, you will find you are not only giving, you are also receiving.

Let’s welcome Christmas with our hearts this year:

Welcome Christmas

1. Listen

Listen has the same letters as the word silent. We do too much talking and not enough listening in our relationships. If you really want to give someone a gift this holiday, spend some time listening. Really listening. You will be amazed at what you will hear when you listen with your ears and your heart.

Several months ago, I ran into a friend at the store. I had been having what I thought was a pretty crummy day, and I was taking the back aisles because I just didn’t have anything left to give. As I ran into her, I stopped. I listened. Suddenly, she was sharing how she had been in a car accident and had a pretty horrible morning. She was worried about going home to tell her husband. I said very little. I just listened. You see, I didn’t have much to give, but I gave her a little time, and a squeeze as I left. She turned to me and said, “Thank you. I didn’t know what I was going to do. Thank you for listening.” I left feeling like even though I had nothing to give, I made a difference. 

And, that made  a difference for me.

You see, we don’t need to solve or fix other people’s problems. Most of them are able to do that themselves. But, we all like to be heard.

We all want some acknowledgement that we are important enough to someone that they will listen.

2. Withhold Judgment

We love to judge. I know, no one likes to admit it, but we do. We like to compare and then judge others. We like to point out little faults, because for some ridiculous reason, we believe makes us a little better. It is some insidious belief that if we can find fault with someone else, we can ignore our own faults. And, that makes us feel better.

But the truth is, judgment really doesn’t make us better, it makes us more and more in need of reassurance and validation. I have two words to deal with judgmental attitudes:

Stop it.

Let us just stop.

I have repeatedly found that we do not know one another’s stories. We only have a small piece of their picture. Our vision and understanding is limited. We don’t know what it is like to live in their shoes and they don’t what it is like to live in ours.

One gift we can give for Christmas, is the gift of understanding, forgiveness and non-judgement. It is difficult, but it is a beautiful gift.

Dr. Wayne Dyer, Judgment

3. Serve

The holidays are notorious for being difficult for many, many people. The holidays are stressful, money is tight, families don’t always get along, and people don’t always have loved ones around them.

Washing someone’s dishes, shoveling the snow in their driveway, picking up a few things for them at the store, driving them to their doctor’s appointment, or helping them put up their Christmas tree can be very generous gifts to someone who is struggling during this season.

You don’t always need to buy them a turkey or send over a box of gifts. A gift of service will very likely be remember much longer than a monetary gift. You cannot buy sincerity and compassion. That must be given. 

Albert Einstein Service

Give the gift of time and self this Christmas. You will find it changes you.

4. Pray

There have been many times in my life when I have been face-to-face with someone who is facing a problem bigger than the both of us. These are the times when words and actions are pretty meaningless, and there is little that can be done to help. But, there is one thing we can do. We can pray. I know you may all have different beliefs about God, and I respect those, but I do know that prayer helps. Prayer can change things. Prayer changes me.

Abraham Lincoln Prayer

Give someone the gift of prayer this season. You both will be blessed by this simple power that doesn’t cost you anything.

Let us all share in this part of the season. The holidays give us the opportunities to share our love for one another. That, my friends, doesn’t cost a thing. We acually get kickbacks from these kind of gifts. They make us feel wonderful!

Do you have a memory of a Christmas where you received a gift of the heart? Leave me a note below.


And, in honor of my SITS day, all of the above pictures are free printables. Feel free to right click and download any of these for personal use. It is my gift to you!!

Have a wonderful, generous holiday! Be sure to come back and visit me soon.

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44 thoughts on “4 Generous Gifts for the Holidays that Won’t Cost You a Dime

  • Reply
    Lauren Tamm

    Love it! Seriously doesn’t the judgement need to stop? A long time ago someone told me meanness is merely a sign of insecurity. I think the same applies to judgement. When I find myself judging or comparing to someone else, I know it’s time to take a look inside myself. Thanks for sharing. Tweeting now.


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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you Lauren. I have been offline for a while, but am excited to get back into the swing of things! I wholeheartedly agree that judgement is related to insecurity. I have to work on this as well! Always a pleasure. Off to read your stuff now!!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Caroline! I like #3 too. Sometimes I think “I don’t have time…” but, don’t we all have a little time to give? Thanks for stopping over!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Laina. I do think that the holidays get a little too focused on monetary gifts. I love those gifts (don’t get me wrong) but a few non-monetary gifts can really mean a lot!

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    Joan Lloyd

    I would like to give you an example of #3 – Service. Some people did a wonderful thing for us that we couldn’t do for ourselves. They put up our outside Christmas lights. When we came home from Temple Square, we were greeted by a beautiful sight. All of a sudden my heart was filled with the Christmas spirit.

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    Katy @ Experienced Bad Mom

    So happy to connect! I love these gifts. And free printables? Truly you have a visual gift! I need to hear the gift of not judging. Maybe because after being with family this Thanksgiving all my insecurities were sneaking up. It’s a great gift I can give myself AND others.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Me too, Katy! I had fun making these printables. They were a lot of fun! I have to work on not judging as well. I have so many of my own insecurities to work on! Thanks for stopping over. Hope to see you again!

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    Katie Wassink

    Let every heart, prepare Him room! And heaven and nature sing, and heaven and nature sing…beautiful post with wonderful quotes to keep Christ in Christmas and the reason for the season at the forefront of your celebrations. #ibabloggers

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I love that song. I love Christmas carols that really bring in the reason for the season. Thank you, Katie, for stopping by! Have a wonderful day!

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    Brittany M.

    Happy SITS Day!! These are the best gifts that you can give, without spending a dime. Sometimes, especially during the holiday season we get so caught up in spending money that we forget to invest what’s really important. Great post!!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      I agree, Brittany. Getting caught up in the monetary is something I am working on. As a matter of fact, I have only purchased two gifts to date this year (for Christmas). I have a little more to do!!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thank you Pamela. I am so glad that you liked it. I too like the one about listening. That is one gift that I truly appreciate from a good friend.

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    I hope your SITS day was wonderful!

    Thanks for the suggestions. These are perfect. I especially loved “You see, we donโ€™t need to solve or fix other peopleโ€™s problems. Most of them are able to do that themselves. But, we all like to be heard.” Amen, sister! Oh, how long it took me to learn this.

    Thanks for the reminder to touch hearts more often. I’m going to go do a little good as soon as I’m done here. I need it.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      So glad that you liked this. I think it is a message that we all need to hear this season. I am glad you are able to reach out and help others. It truly is meaningful!

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks, Alli. Isn’t it too easy to judge? I must admit that I do it, and it is something I am trying to work on. Thanks for stopping by!

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    The judgment one is so vital these days. And I admit I am guilty of judging others too quickly. It is something I work on constantly in myself.

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      balmtomysoul Post author

      Thanks Audrey. I must admit that I am also very imperfect at the judgment one. I really work at it. I guess that is something!! Thanks for stopping over!

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    Very good reminders for the holiday season! Thanks for linking up to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party! Iโ€™ve pinned your post to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Board.

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    These are lovely ideas for generous and free gifts!
    Thank you for stopping by the Thoughtful Spot Weekly Blog Hop this week. We hope to see you drop by our neck of the woods next week!

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    Rach D

    I love the quote from Abe Lincoln. Great ‘gift’ ideas!! I especially like the serving one ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thanks for sharing on this week’s Inspired By Me Mondays; hope you join us again this week! Rachael @ Diamonds in the Rough